Bossy, Not I! I Just Have Executive Leadership Skills, That’s All
Before Steve Harvey’s bestselling book turn box office hit “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.”, my teachers would tell me time and time again to “Act like a lady” in public. I can’t tell you how much this quote drives me up the wall. As a little girl, that phrase did not rub me the right way at all. My motto was always “Anything a boy can do, I could do better.”
That head strong attitude deemed me to be considered bossy amongst my peers and family members. Even in my mid-twenties, I have been told from my managers that I am too assertive/ aggressive and I should lighten up. However, I see day in and out my male counterpart being congratulated on their “overly-confident” ways of managing their workload.
This past week, my boyfriend has been complaining on how thin the walls are in the apartment. He says the little girl next door is always yelling and seems like she controls that household. I am not going to lie, I have seen the little munchkin in action and believe me she does not play! She knows what she wants and there’s nothing you say can pursue her differently. She’s not at all a bad child. (Which I hate calling children bad). She is very sweet and has a ton of personality. I love to see her interact with her oversized lab, scream “Come here, boy. You can do it” Ha ha ha, it is a sight to see!
It is easy to label her as being bossy little brat but if she were a boy would we say differently? Most likely not! For I have a very head-strong godson who I believe will one day be a CEO of a company due to his decisive manner of conducting his daily activities. How is this little girl any different from my future little CEO godson? She’s not! She has as much leadership skills as any male child does and possible adults. Why is it we give boys so much credit for their leadership skills, yet give girls titles like “bossy” or “spoiled brat”?
Facebook COO, Sheryl Sandberg and Girl Scouts have teamed up to promote girls and women to stand up and take their places as leader with the tag #BanBossy. I don’t know about you but I can totally jump on board with this message.
Do you feel we stereotype girls and women when it comes to their careers/ education?
Ever since I was a child I always had this strange fascination with what food items look like actually body parts. Whether human or animal, I would try to freak out my cousins with the comparisons of ketchup with blood and pickles to frog skin My male cousins loved it, while my female cousins steered clear away from me. I was a tomboy so it didn’t bother me much in the first place. Spaghetti to road kill guts, walnuts to brains and the list goes on.
I even remember my mother having this food, herb, & healing book in her collection that I seem to always gravitate towards as a child. I would read and stare at that book for hours trying to figure out what foods I could use to relieve what new ailments my dear ole’ hypochondriac grandma had.
I believe with my decision of becoming a vegetarian over a decade, may also be an unconscious way of healing my body with nature’s vegetation. The older I became I would watch food shows, and travel foodie/ chef shows just for the hell of it and absolutely fell in love with the food world.I love To this day I rather watch a Food(ography) rerun or anything with Alton Brown to find out what food does what to our body over any show on TV.
So you can imagine my total excitement coming across this post this morning. Can you say “Holistic Foodgasm”!!!
Oh my goodness, I am about three minutes for packing up the lover boy and heading to Whole Foods, Trader Joe, and World Market and buying each item on this post. This is pure amazement on how good food contribute to healing and preventing disease to our bodies.
My inner phat girl is in awe of the yumminess this morning!!!
One of the biggest mistakes I’ve made in the last few years was not paying attention. Not paying attention to Galimatias, that is. Music from the Danish electronic producer was consistently reposted on my SoundCloud feed for many moons. I finally gave him a listen last summer and over the past few months I’ve learned from him and applied that knowledge to my own music. Although his sound has evolved more than once since I discovered him last summer, his warm pads, fat kicks that side chain the pads, fast snapping chorus-y rim shots, vinyl static, harmonizing vocal chops, sprinkled piano notes, and ubiquitous basses that seem to wrap around the track has become a favorite aesthetic among his listeners.
Over the weekend, Galimatias dropped the official remix to Paper Birds by Viole (formerly known as Meek DeMeo) featuring Kendrick Lamar. This remix comes 8 months after the release of the original track. The instrumental contains the characteristics previously described. The verses from Viole and Kendrick complete the dark aura of this song.
Viole presents us with a top line and fast vibrato reminiscent of The Weeknd. His vocals have a more than moderate touch of reverb with a delay effect that conveys the emotions of being trapped in a canyon of sorrow. Galimatias uses his editing skills to form a hook that’s different from the original mix of the song. The vocal chops glide from a low pitch, to a high pitch, and back to a low pitch, making Viole sound as if he’s screaming for mercy and wailing in grief amidst a drunken splendor.
Kendrick Lamar starts his verse as an ode to imprudence, justifying the actions of him and his comrades based on the mental anguish from being poor. His struggles in Compton are personified as a woman that entices him. He eventually becomes content with his environment and uses it to his advantage to alleviate his pain when stating, “we started vibing and writing melodies to the sirens”.
Both Viole and Kendrick know the things they need to escape from are also their guilty pleasures. Viole uses inebriation for his catharsis while Kendrick chooses deviant behavior and writing about said behavior. Neither state if they’ve succeeded in their resolution but pain is all they need for now.
Galimatias’ remix for “Paper Birds” can be said to be partly influenced by Burial due to the atmospheric instruments and filtered drums. The majority of Galimatias’ recent releases sound this way from what I can only guess is Burial’s renowned garage music influence on many producers outside of the garage genre. As commented by a listener on Viole’s official SoundCloud audio, the original mix is actually a reworked sample of a Burial song (1000 points for the person who comments with the Burial song title). Maybe this trend of anonymity in the beginning stages of artists’ careers can also be traced to Burial. It wasn’t until 2014 that we got his famed selfie, seven years after releasing his acclaimed Untrue album that made him a mainstay in topics of the most innovative electronic musicians in the past decade. With artists like The Weeknd, Banks, and Viole starting out with a shroud of mystery and darkness around them, we shall see in the years to come if they too will make their marks in their respective genres.
Download Galimatias’ remix for free here: http://goo.gl/vP7iBk Come back Thursday for the drum kit and to see the next article by DJsNeverEndingStory.
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